Sunday, 28 December 2014

Maturity by Shawn M. Cohen

"I Never Thought I'd Live to Be 100"
by, The Moody Blues

It has been a long time since I have come to write upon this page and this blog.
It has been a long journey and so much happens that it seems almost impossible to document it all, nor would I want to. 
Just the highlights, just my thoughts, experiences or what I have felt were, are important to say. 
The video above sets the theme of this long coming blog entry: Maturity. 
I look around me at the ripe age of 58, soon to be 59 in 4 months and I see I have come upon the stage of my own life where words like, "retirement" and "Second Saturn Return" light up my Metaphysical and Astrological mind. 
I came all the way from America to the UK in my first Saturn Return, age 29, which was in 1985. Now, almost 30 years later and a full Saturn cycle later, I am once again hearing the bells ringing of Saturn, the Old and Wise Taskmaster, who says, "It's Time" (which Saturn rules)  as he makes me aware of the next leg of both journeys, human and divine. 
Who amongst us can remain a Puer *? (*A person who can never mature and will always act Forever Young)... For does it not set the stage for extreme disaster to not grow, mature and allow the world to spin, not to see it, perceive it and actually acknowledge it for what it truly is? Puers and other immature people keep the fantasy of the young, youthful wish-fullness; themed with endless fairy tales that MUST come true and Handsome Princes and  Beautiful Princesses who always live happily ever after? Does the world play fair, give us what we desire, meet us as equals and provide us what we want/wish it to be? NO. The Mature person understands this, having lived it out and seen and experienced it for themselves. The Puer says "I won't grow up, I don't want to be an adult!" As in the song, from Peter Pan,  declares! (Peter was the ultimate Puer, also played by the late, great Robin Williams, who had just hit his 63rd birthday and could take it no more, killed himself to all our shocked disbelief...he was also a true comic genius whose childhood was lost and could not find it except in acting/comedy even serious dramas as the " Puer".)   As science has it's breakthroughs,  there are no reasons to look old, with make-up, Botox, plastic surgery, you can look any age, reverse the clock, bring yourself back for a second, maybe even a third chance of what you missed when you were younger and too immature to make the correct decisions for your life.  Men are having plastic surgery now as much as women and this really tells just how sick and sad a society of babies/lost in our delusions, we really are! 
By doing this, we lose so much! Society loses so much! We, who are over 50, even 40, tell ourselves we don't have to be like our Grandparents and yes, we do not. We are the Baby Boomers, The Beatniks, The Hippies, Peace, Love and Freedom! Uranus is in Aries (the sign of the baby, the child) as it was in the 1960's and we see this again. The need to rebel, to create chaos, to demonstrate against the "Establishment"! And I was there the first time around, so I know, it can make changes happen, good and much needed changes which society needs in order to grow, and work for all, not just the rich or the powerful.
I have seen both sides of this. The need to be rebellious, create change and bring in new ideas and information first hand. Now I am of Saturn's age, where I can reflect back on what works and what did not....where change can come through hard work and discipline...two words no one seems to like or admire anymore. 
The society Puer wants everything for nothing and in an instant (gratification)! The children of today push a button, click on a link and all knowledge is theirs, all homework answers available in a nanosecond. We had our fingers to count on and if we were lucky a calculator but we were not allowed to use it in class. 
I look around me at many of my friends I grew up with and many are becoming Grandparents or are already. I wonder if they even understand how their sacred knowledge and time is so important to their offspring's generations. James Hillman is a Jungian Analyst and Author and he wrote a book cheering on and showing why older people's lives can be and should be cherished and embraced, not just by society but also by ourselves, for those of us looking into that last 3rd of our lives.  His book is called, "The Force of Character and the Lasting Life". Here is a video of James Hillman explaining this. 

As you can see by this video, when we do not embrace maturity and all the benefits and purpose of it, we lose. We lose the dignity and grace which follows a long life, where the experiences are many and the opportunities to be remembered and even valued for our contributions, love and wisdom are available. If you leave behind childish things, when you become an adult, you allow your children the insight as to how to grow up, mature and deal with life's many responsibilities, choices, career and health issues as well as their own happiness and love. As you see, a baby can not lead, it takes a mature person to lead, to show by example. Where there is a whiner and a complainer and a person who looks to be saved, rescued and constantly reassured there is a broken inner child who refuses to grow up and mature, always looking for Mommy or  Daddy because they do not want to be responsible for their own life!
How can a child lead or a baby or an infant who has so many unmet needs, looking to plug into the next bottle, tit, nurturer, sugar daddy,  and refuses to see they themselves are refusing the correct path which is always self responsibility and maturity. 
Stay immature at your own peril. Stay in the delusion that Superman, Angels, God, Jesus, The Prince on the White Horse and any other manor of energy we can't see or hear, even our Dead Relatives and Loved Ones in Heaven who do NOT have THE Power to LIVE your LIFE for YOU. Nor can they make you grow up! They can only ever offer some sort of encouragement. This has been my experience as a Human Being, a Psychic Medium and Metaphysician for over 32 years professionally. No, they can not bring down the Moon for you, nor can they magic up the next boyfriend or job or cure your disease! Only YOU can do that. That is called, "Responsibility" and it goes hand in hand skipping down the lane with "Integrity"! 
Remain creative and come again to the inner child for inspiration, love unabashed from the inner child but before you do either, consult the inner Adult for whether it is realistic and viable.  They are two beautiful words when you are a mature adult, they just save you so much Hell, if you listen. 
In conclusion, when a women has a face lift she may get away with lying to the public or even lying to herself but her body never lies. Instead of being ashamed of being older, why not embrace it as the rich and truly rewarding time it should and is suppose to be, one filled with dignity and self worth and truth and the substance of a life well lived? It matters not, in the end, how many cars, houses and phony friends you have who think you are "something" or "nothing" but what YOU think of yourself and your own achievements both internally (emotionally, mentally and spiritually as well as the knowledge you have gained) and physically (did you travel, see the world, help others, make new friends, become part of a community, enjoy your work, contribute to the world, help animals and the environment and love, did you love and were you loved in return??) These will be the only things that matter when you are finished with this life on this planet and in Heaven in a life review. This, then, will be the summation of your life. So make it count, live it fully and not just a repeat of when you were young, which you can  do by growing up and taking responsibility for all you are. If you do not like who you are, or what your life looks like then have the courage and the insight to change it, it is that simple. 

The rest will follow sure as night follows day. "Crones" are  wise older women who have embraced their wisdom, experiences and use them well to teach the youth. The cycle of Saturn is complete and all is as it should be. 

This Metaphysical Blog called, "Shelter From the Storm" is written by Ms. Shawn M . Cohen (c) latest entry called, "MATURITY, using for fair use policy, The Moody Blues song "I Never Thought I'd Live to Be 100" written by the Moody Blues and the interview with Jungian Author and Psychotherapist, James Hillman. No copyright infringement is intended. 
London, Dec. 28, 2014 
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